Passive thinking and retrospection. Comparison and reflection
Thursday, September 18, 2003
I talked with sis a few days ago and helped her to revise her resume. After I sent the revised version back and discussed it with her on the phone, it seems that she is not very impressed and sounded reserved. It's her traditional response though. Maybe she is not confident about her ability, maybe she is tired of current situation and is depressed. There are many maybes. All those leads to my reflection on current status. I am like her--not liking my work, not happy with what I do, not working hard to refurbish resume, not trying hard enough to find a job... It's very similar. Everyone is good at giving advices, but when it come to his/her own situations, no one is quite the same person who is giving out advice.
I remembered there is an article in high school article or something like that talking about "people who are in the mud cannot see why he is in the it, but the people outside can see it clearly". That's exactly what happened here. I saw the problem that she is not working hard enough to achieve her full potential and I am doing the same thing, plus blaming her at the same time for not doing it. What a irony!
I saw Chad on Tuesday and talked about how cruel the kids are in the United States. They call people who wear glasses as nerds, geeks, and even faggots. Chad said that's the competitiveness they learned and saw from their parents who were doing the exact same thing at work, while having fun... The competitiveness shown on TV is encouraged and trashing talking is okay to many people while I, who came from a diffrent culture, would think that's vulgar and stupid. All the psychological effects will play a big part during the competition, but that's not what the fair competition about. But in reality, WHO CARES? If only they win, they couldn't care less about the shame and ugliness. It's clearly shown on Wednesday's Big Brother 4. Ali's parents are "proud" of their girl doing trashing talking, back stabbing on national television. I am even embarrassed by them. Don't they have a slightest idea of what should be taught to their children? All the morality and values are totally lost in some families.
I am talking about competitiveness tonight. We all should be competitive. (although I wasn't as competitive as I want to be, I am sure I can learn it.) At the same time, the competition should be carried out in a fair and moral way. Not by other ugly little tricks.
The lessons I learned from so many reality shows are being competitive and the right way to deal with people although I still have a hard to to use those tactics. Those things will benefit me in the long run.
Posted at September 18, 2003 in Thoughts
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